The Search for Purpose: Why Quick Fixes Don’t Work (and What Does)

By Dr. Meagan Yarmey, PhD, MSW, RSW

Feeling Lost Is Human—But the Fast Fix Isn’t Always the Real One

We all struggle with uncertainty. Feeling directionless can be deeply uncomfortable—and our instinct is to fix it as fast as possible. So we search for clarity:

We turn to self-help books, personality tests, career quizzes, and influencers promising instant insight. We try on identities that sound good, hoping one will finally fit.

Sometimes these tools offer a useful starting point. But more often, they keep us busy rather than grounded. They offer the illusion of progress while postponing the deeper work of real self-discovery.

Amidst a world of books and nature, a man stands at the threshold, contemplating his journey towards finding meaning and purpose.

The Allure of the Shortcut

Shortcuts feel reassuring. They give us structured answers to life’s messier questions.

They look like purpose—but often leave us feeling more lost than before.

Jobs, relationships, or lifestyles may seem “right” on paper but feel empty in practice. We’re not doing anything wrong—we’re simply trying to avoid the discomfort of not knowing. But in exchange, we risk building lives that don’t truly reflect who we are.

A Different Way Forward

The more honest path isn’t fast—and it definitely isn’t easy.

It asks us to pause. To question the scripts we’ve inherited. To sit in uncertainty longer than we’d like.

It may feel unsettling, even painful at times. But that discomfort is where the deeper work begins.

Purpose Isn’t Found—It’s Formed

Real purpose doesn’t come from the outside. It’s built slowly, through curiosity, reflection, and values-driven choices.

It’s not about having one perfect answer. It’s about creating a life that feels real and aligned.

There’s no shortcut to that kind of clarity—but the longer road leads somewhere meaningful.

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